I have really been neglecting this blog lately; but I feel it may be time to update where we are right now. First, there is some adoption lingo that may be helpful. These are by no means official or scientific -- it's the best way I know how to explain what I have seen three times over.
When children come to your house you may first experience a "Honeymoon Period". This is a time when the kids are sweet as pie, you may not be as strict and everyone just can't believe how wonderful this all is.
Then there is the "adjustment period". This is when the kids start testing the waters, acting out or pushing all the limits. As parents, instead of having the "how wonderful" feeling -- you may begin to have the "what have we done?" feeling.
Right now we are experiencing some of the adjustment period. Having adopted before, I will be honest and say, I do not have the "what have we done?" feeling. I kind of know where we are and I am ready to be moving forward. The good news is we are already beginning to move forward.
Since I do not feel free to post identifying information about our new children I will give them blog nicknames. Our little girl is 5 and she can sing so pretty -- I will call her Songbird. Our little boy is 4 he loves that we gave him a Bible and he loves to pray -- he is our Preacher Man.
So Songbird has had a terrible time sleeping. It has been something akin to having a newborn. She would hardly go to her own bed and spent a few nights screaming and running out -- literally. One night she camped on our floor and woke every two hours to pat me awake and give me a hug. She complained of nightmares a lot. Adjustment. Now, she is going to her own bed (sometimes slightly weepy). She asks me to turn on music; leave on some lights and pray over her. Then she sleeps -- and she sleeps all night. Moving Forward.
Preacher Man used to scowl a lot. He didn't want anyone to laugh about something he may have done before. For example, at dinner I was recounting a really cute event during the day and everyone chuckled. He screamed and ran under the lunch table and screamed and screamed that we were laughing at him. Adjustment. This is ending and he is enjoying talking at the lunch table. He is still emotional, but it is the sweetest thing. I wake him in the morning and he will suddenly shout "I LOVE YOU MOMMY". Moving Forward.
Adjustment / moving forward this isn't only for new children moving into the family. It is for everyone who is going through the process. Everyone has changes and we are all adjusting. I went from one child who needed help with serving food, brushing teeth, etc to three children that need help. We went from one booster seat in the car to three. We are trying to finish building a new room in the basement. School has started again and I now have these grades to facilitate: pre-school, kindergarten, 1st grade, 5th grade, 6th grade, 7th grade, 9th grade, and 12th grade. The Lord provided well for us, but it involved a lot of canning which Jerome headed up. Over 50 quarts of tomato products.
We don't want to forget to have fun and enjoy life as we move along. So, we have taken a trip to Kings Island, completed our Bible Bee and try to make each day honor the Lord.
The Lord has been faithful to bless us: Ephesians 3:20 .. He is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that we ask or think...
And so we are moving forward ....