Every so often I announce: "I am expecting. Can't I put my feet up and have a milkshake?" Believe me it NEVER works.
WE are expecting, because we are in the adoption ring again. Consequently, WE are all laboring. It's a labor of love, but it is a labor. It involves a lot of e-mails. I make sure to say that WE are all laboring, because every family member is involved in this process. Jerome and I review, talk and pray about all of the possible children. We talk to our kids about them and ask them to pray. We don't share all the information we have, but enough that they can pray appropriately and consider what it might be like. Then we trust God and watch Him work as he opens and closes doors.
Here's an example. We received information on a little boy. He had a lot of challenges and we went back and forth about whether to consider adding him to our family. We all prayed we all discussed, and finally we decided to take the next step. We just made a 3 hour drive to have a meeting and meet this little boy we were pretty sure we would like to adopt. All 8 of us took this trip and all 8 of us went through an hour and a half at the agency. The adults sat a big table and discussed all the ins and outs and challenges that might be involved. All the children were in a room (pretty small!) with a social worker -- trying to play and hang out. At the end of all of this time and effort it was clear to all of us that this was not a match. It was clear to us as parents, and the children could see too that this probably would not have worked out well. We were at total peace saying no to proceeding. We certainly hope this little boy finds a family of his very own.
In the midst of this consideration, our family is also being considered for the placement of two young children in our state. Today the package of information arrived with a picture. Again, Mom and Dad have reviewed it all -- shared what we could and asked the whole family to pray. Again, the whole family will be taking another trip for another one of those meetings.
Adoption -- The family in Labor. It is an amazing thing and an exciting adventure.